In a highly unusual move for a single 24-year-old living in New York City, I signed up for an online dating site last year. I know, groundbreaking move. Shocking. Brave. Heroic. Daring.

Trust me, I know.

Those are all words I used to describe myself in my profile. Along with “high profile lawyer” and “former ibanker” and “Dustin Diamond enthusiast.” It’s amazing that no one married me within the first month I was on there. It’s also amazing that men sent incredibly disturbing messages like, “yo u look like u wanna 2 fuck me tonight. Do u?” with the expectation I would respond.